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First Things First
I swear to everything that I love I am not patronizing anyone. I honestly wish that I didn’t have to explain the basic details of BDSM and sadomasochism. But over the last few years the BDSM community has grown with a lot of new people. Many of whom are not sadists or masochists and play on variants of domination and submission that have absolutely nothing to do with me as a sadist and the people I want to get to know who would be masochists.
So, everything I write has a dual purpose… First, to clarify the experience I have, and my reality and truths that make me who and what I am. Second, to be clear to that I absolutely understand what a masochist wants and needs and that I am adaptive to the variety and diversity of individual needs.
If you’re a masochist, local to Central Florida, accept that I’m a dominatrix, and you’re looking for someone you can trust for sadomasochist engagement, the last paragraph is the only thing I should have to write for you to reach out to me and begin a conversation. Unfortunately, it’s not. Far too many people just don’t get it. Among other things, they swear that they are masochists, but they are not. They think that being a “switch” is a real thing. And they think that the purpose of bondage and discipline is punishment. Maybe in their version of BDSM, it is. But not in mine or yours if you’re a masochist.
Recently I was approached by someone who told me he was “dominant”. Of course, he thought that this would immediately create a basis for us to bond. I could tell he was clueless. So I asked him two questions… What is your favorite way of punishing and rewarding your slaves? He answered as I expected. I’m paraphrasing, “I like to punish them by tying them up and whipping them and reward them by allowing them to masturbate while I watch”. I replied, “Interesting. I punish my slaves by sending them home and not allowing them to contact or see me for some amount of time. I reward them through tight, painful bondage and beating them.” If reading this confuses you, stop reading now because you really don’t have a clue!
Also, I’m not suggesting that because I’m a sadist, I’m compatible with every masochist or vice versa. It’s not that simple.
What is simple is that at the core, sadists and masochists have a symbiotic relationship that is both equal and opposite. We need each other in order to achieve a high level mental and physical sexual gratification. That’s one hell of a good start!
Please, don’t be one of those people who are afraid to reach out to me because you don’t think you have enough or any experience, have a low pain tolerance, are afraid that I’ll kill you, or that your lack of experience won’t satisfy me. Let’s say hypothetically that pain & humility tolerance can be measured on a scale from 1 to 10. With 1 being not much and 10 being the worst thing you can imagine. When I engage with a 1 person, I’ll stay within their limits, but their cries, screams, trembling, jolts, struggle, and orgasms will be the same as a 10 person. And because I’m more of an auditory sadist than a visual one I’ll be completely satisfied.
A Few Seconds of Syntax
- I don’t like using the word “play”. I prefer to say “engagement”.
- When a sadist and masochist engage with each other it is a sadomasochistic engagement.
- “D/s” = “dominant/submissive”
- I make a conscious effort to use the word slave over sub or submissive.
The Simple Core Information
I’m a dominant, sadistic, bitch. I’m bisexual and enjoy vanilla sex. I love sadomasochistic engagement and it is absolutely my first choice sexually.
I believe that sex (intercourse) and BDSM are mutually exclusive. I can have amazing vanilla sex without any BDSM and can enjoy a sadomasochistic engagement without any sex.
I also completely avoid sexual intercourse within a sadomasochist relationship because it is completely counterproductive.
Maybe you should read the last sentence a few times before reading any further.
For me a sadomasochistic engagement accomplishes the same thing as sexual intercourse except it is more elevated, intense, and gratifying.
The Sadomasochist Relationship
At its core the sadomasochist relationship consists of a sadist and masochist for the purpose of sexual and psychological satisfaction and gratification. Regardless of how this relationship may appear, it is an equal partnership. At its CORE there is no need for one person to be “dominant” and the other “submissive”. There is no reason for there to be a “master”, “mistress”, “slave” or “sub”.
I consider the D/s aspect of a sadomasochist relationship to be a lot like foreplay in a sexual relationship. Bondage and discipline are the sexual acts. Hopefully you get it and agree. Again, I’m continually amazed and trying to avoid people in the BDSM community are clueless to this and think that bondage and discipline is punishment for poor behavior and nothing more!
The reason most sadomasochist relationships becomes a D/s (dominant and submissive) relationship is because of the need for enjoyment and experience of psychological pain. For simplicity most people refer to psychological pain as humiliation. The truth is that domination and humiliation has endless possibilities and depend very much on the creativity of the dominant person. With today’s technology I’m able to maintain a dominant presence and administer psychological pain 24/7. Of course, within established boundaries.
Degradation is another extremely important aspect of this relationship. The extent of which must remain within established boundaries. Degradation either public or private typically includes every aspect of a sadomasochist relationship. It is often the most difficult aspect of a D/s relationship. More than any single thing, it also builds the trust in a D/s relationship. More importantly degradation, when executed properly, impacts a slave’s entire life. Degradation builds a slave’s self-confidence, empowers them, and makes them more powerful. Maybe you'll be one of my slaves who have thanked me for changing their lives. The most common change I hear about is that they are no longer intimidated by their peers or bosses at work. They’ve gone from remaining silent in business meetings to being able to confidently voice their opinions. A few found the courage to confront a family abuser. Ironically one slave was able to end a long-term abusive marriage. Empowerment from degradation moved them from the invisible person in the background to being a leader. Impossible you say? Well, remember that you don't know what you don't know! Last, but not least, this newfound empowerment makes them better slaves who continually ask to expand their boundaries which in turn elevates their gratification and satisfaction.
I don’t claim to know every subtle aspect of D/s sadomasochistic engagement and relationships. What you’ve just read is what my experience has taught me are the basics of the what. The details of the how is something you’ll have to learn from firsthand experience.
Finally...!
At this point you should be able to decide whether or not you and I share the same interests and beliefs about sadomasochism and D/s relationships. You should have a decent idea as to whether or not you’re attracted and interested in me. But you need to know more before actually engaging with me. And I need to know everything about you!
I know that reaching out to someone you’ve most likely never met, about something that is deeply personal to you, can be difficult. I hope that you’re able to dig down within yourself and make a small leap of faith by reaching out to me. Doing so means making a commitment to open and honest communication with me. Nothing else.
If you found me on an adult social media website, you can message me through that site. But I don’t visit those websites very often and your message could go unnoticed for a week or two. I prefer you send me an email to jackie@jackiehill.net or if you need to maintain anonymity you can reach me through the form on this website “Contact Me” page. CLICK HERE to go there directly.
Everything begins somewhere, somehow.
Why shouldn’t you begin your somewhere here?